You are so successful, why you are still not happy?

你那么成功，为什么还不幸福？

You are so successful, why you are still not happy?

（Brenna Cammeron）

塞巴斯蒂安·布拉斯（Sebastien Bras）成为了业界翘楚：这位主厨开在法国南部的Le Suquet被评为米其林三星餐厅，这是一项令人羡慕不已的殊荣。

Sebastien Bras has become a leader in the industry: The chef was named Michelin's Samsung restaurant in Le Suquet in southern France. This is an enviable honor.

但布拉斯却在2017年因为要求米其林撤销Le Suquet的三星评级而登上媒体头条，他的理由是：当他知道，任何不够完美的菜肴都会对餐厅的声誉构成威胁时，他感受到了"巨大的压力"。

But Blas hit the headlines in 2017 when he asked Michelin to withdraw Le Suquet’s Samsung rating. His reason was that when he knew that any dish that was not perfect would threaten the reputation of the restaurant, he felt that “enormous pressure".

 

布拉斯的故事在世界美食界或许独一无二，但他恐怕未必是第一个攀登顶峰之后却发现幸福与成功之间的联系不像多数人想象得那么紧密的人。

The story of Blas may be unique in the world of gourmet food, but he may not be the first person to climb the top but found that the link between happiness and success is not as close as most people think.

 

了解自己的敌人

Understand your own enemies

 

专家表示，巨大的成功往往伴随着许多意想不到的"并发症"，有的来自个人关系，有的源于自我认知。

Experts say that huge success is often accompanied by many unexpected "complications", some from personal relationships, and some from self-knowledge.

 

玛丽·拉米亚（Mary Lamia）是一名临床心理学家，她还著有《什么东西激励人们完成任务》（What Motivates Getting Things Done）。她表示，成功人士经常感觉自己带着目标四处行走——他们往往不会离目标太远。

Mary Lamia is a clinical psychologist and she also writes "What Motivates Getting Things Done." She said that successful people often feel that they walk around with their goals - they are often not too far away from the goal.

 

"当你获得一定的成功后，就有一些人想要实现你的成就。他们不再把你当做你——而是把你当做他们想要的东西。"拉米亚说，她还补充道，人们有时会通过观察相同行业的顶尖人士来获得快乐。

"When you have a certain success, there are some people who want to achieve your accomplishments. They will no longer think of you as you - but will treat you as what they want." Lamia said, she added people sometimes get happiness by looking at the top people in the same industry.

 

拉米亚表示，除了幸灾乐祸，以及与同事和爱人发生冲突外，那些取得巨大成功的人还会激发一些极其负面的情绪，担心自己曝光得不够充分。

Lamia said that in addition to recognition and conflict with colleagues and loved ones, those who have achieved great success will inspire some extremely negative emotions and fear that they will not be sufficiently exposed. 

 

"我跟那些被成功毁掉的人谈过——并非所有人能以良好的心态拥抱成功。"拉米亚说。

 "I have talked with those who have been successfully destroyed - not everyone can embrace success with a good attitude," Lamia said.

 

很多成功人士和业界翘楚都把外界压力作为一种动力，促使自己更上一层楼。但拉米亚表示，还有人会因为害怕失败而导致自己停滞不前。他们可能把这种挫败感发泄到爱人身上，还有的会吸毒或酗酒，或者干脆放弃他们曾经热爱的事业。

Many successful people and industry leaders have used external pressure as a driving force to push themselves to a higher level. However, Lamia said that there are still people who will cause themselves to stagnate because of fear of failure. They may vent this frustration to their loved ones, and others may take drugs or alcohol, or simply give up what they once loved.

 

对于那些成功培育健康而没有戒备的关系，并利用对失败的恐惧来促使自己不断成就卓越的人来说，仍要在通往成功的道路上面临一个障碍，那就是不断变换的目标。

For those who have succeeded in nurturing healthy and unguarded relationships and using the fear of failure to promote their continued success, they still face an obstacle in the path to success. That is the constantly changing goal.